Take stock of your social network

It can be easy to get stuck on “autopilot” in our social lives, especially if we’re busy or stressed. It can feel easiest to only socialize with a rote group of people — like coworkers or your partner’s friends — because it’s most convenient to do so, rather than making the effort to reach out to your larger social network.

When you’re feeling lonely or disconnected from others, taking stock of your social network can help you identify close contacts you can reach out to, relationships you can cultivate, and even opportunities to meet new people. This can help combat loneliness by serving as 1) a reminder of the network you have and 2) a jumping-off point to form new connections and friendships.

When assessing your social network, it’s a good idea to ask yourself, “Are there other important relationships that I am neglecting?” Maybe there are relatives you only talk to during the holidays but would like to stay in touch with more often. Maybe there are friends from childhood or college that you always mean to contact but haven’t. Or maybe there are people you wanted to befriend, but didn’t, perhaps because it made you feel anxious (see another STAND Tip on staying socially active for more help with this).

You can also brainstorm new opportunities to meet new people and grow your social network. There are countless community organizations, recreational clubs, professional groups and online communities where you can form new connections with people and even pick up a new skill or hobby.

On your own: Make your own “Social Network List”